Excercpts from the book “Six Pillars of self-esteem” by Nathaniel Branden

…..in almost every part of the world and throught virtually all the centuries behind us, women has been regarded, and been taught to regard themselves, as the inferior to men. Women’s second class status is a pronounced aspect of every brand of religious fundamentlism-be it jewish, Christian, Islamic, or Hindu.

 Women as inferior is not an idea that supports female self-esteem.

 

men are judged, and are encouraged to judge themselves, by how well they can financially take care of others. Men are socialized to be “servants” fully as much as women; only the forms of culturally encouraged servitude are different. if a man cannot support a woman, he tends to lose stature in her eyes and in his own. it would take unusual independence and self-esteem to challenge this culturally induced attitude and to ask “why is this the gauge of my value as a man?”

throught human history, most societies and cultures have been dominated by the tribal mentality. the essence of the tribal mentality is that is makes as such the supreme good and denigrates the importance of the individual. In such a society the individual is socialized to hold him or herself in low self-esteem relative to the group. Pride tend to be labeled as vice. Self-sacrificed is enjoined. passionate individual attachment are seen as threatening to tribal values and tribal authority. ………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………(indeed a great book for people who are not holding only their opinions and religions as truth. and who want to be selfish and want to develop their self-esteem.)

I have Learnt that

I’ve learned….

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     That the best classroom in the world is at the
feet of an elderly person.

 

 

I’ve learned….
That when you’re in love, it shows.

I’ve learned….
That just one person saying to me, “You’ve made
my day!” makes my day.

I’ve learned….
That having a child fall asleep in your arms is
one of the most peaceful feelings in the world.

I’ve learned….
That being kind is more important than being
right.

I’ve learned….
That you should never say no to a gift from a
child.

I’ve learned….
That I can always pray for someone when I don’t
have the strength to help him in some other way.

I’ve learned….
That no matter how serious your life requires
you to be, everyone needs a friend to act goofy with.

I’ve learned….

 That sometimes all a person needs is a hand to hold and a heart to understand.

I’ve learned….
That simple walks with my father around the
block on summer nights when I was a child did wonders for me as an
adult.

I’ve learned….
That life is like a roll of
toilet paper. The closer it gets to the end, the faster it goes.

I’ve learned….
That we should be glad God doesn’t give us
everything we ask for.

I’ve learned….
That money doesn’t buy class.

I’ve learned….
That it’s those small daily happenings that make
life so spectacular.

I’ve learned…
That under everyone’s hard shell
is someone who wants to be appreciated and loved.

I’ve learned….
That the Lord didn’t do it all in one day. What
makes me think I can?

I’ve learned….
That to ignore the facts does not change the
facts.

I’ve learned….
That when you plan to get even with someone, you
are only letting that person continue to hurt you.

I’ve learned….
That love, not time, heals all wounds.

I’ve learned….
That the easiest way for me to grow as a person
is to surround myself with people smarter than I am.

I’ve learned….
That everyone you meet deserves to be greeted
with a smile.

I’ve learned….
That there’s nothing sweeter than sleeping with
your babies and feeling their breath on your cheeks.

I’ve learned….
That no one is perfect until you fall in love
with them.

I’ve learned….
That life is tough, but I’m tougher.

I’ve learned….
That opportunities are never lost; someone will
take the ones you miss.

I’ve learned….
That when you harbor bitterness, happiness will
dock elsewhere.

I’ve learned….
That I wish I could have told my Dad that I love
him one more time before he passed away.

I’ve learned….
That one should keep his words both soft and
tender, because tomorrow he may have to eat them.

I’ve learned….

That a smile is an inexpensive way to improve your looks.

I’ve learned….
That I can’t choose how I feel, but I can choose
what I do about it.

I’ve learned….
That when your newly born grandchild holds your
little finger in his little fist, that you’re hooked for life.

I’ve learned….
That everyone wants to live on top of the
mountain, but all the happiness and growth occurs
while you’re climbing it.

I’ve learned …
That it is best to give advice in only two
circumstances; when it is requested and when
it is a life threatening situation.

I’ve learned….
That the less time I have to work with, the more
things I get done.

To all of you…. Make sure you read all the way
down to the last sentence.

(WORDS BY ANDY ROONEY)

DESIRE!

desire

Just Get Going!

get going

The World is Your Mirror!

sadasd

GOD is not Great!

there is two sides of a coin.  the world is made of dualistic nature.
God and Devil are the two wheels of a cart that is world.
Human race is evolving of the knowing that god is not great either.  all the misery in the world is because of God phenomena. the mind made god has made a bad impact on the humans and the world. every religion is raising war on the name of their almighty god. the god is so weak and helpless that the war mongers are to be believed to save him.the  wonder of ego is that mere beliefs are causing the shortsightedness and strife in the world.

the world has still its hope alive.

what need to be done?
we got to see that sanity and evil both is a part of our inherent nature and both are interchangeable.
we are to be just aware of our opinions and perception that makes our false/short identity. nature will always help us to realize our rootedness into being.

there are better work for us to be concerned about environment, education, health,wellbeing rather than praising the almighty God.

the peace is needed inside us so that it emanate all around us.

religion is an individual choice. and we never need a big alliance to be looking at other religion in hatred. what in important to understand is that most of the religious ceremonies teach/preach us about how great is our religion/god and how other religion is insignificant.  we are to be believed that we have to save our god/religion.  though i practice Hinduism, i would be averse to join any Mahatma (saint) seminar only because everyone around me is doing so. i know certain so called Mahatmas who are of trivial character but they are holding a religions flag to cite their importance. i also aware of fact that these so called Mahatmas have enormous devotee that will do any heinous crime if anything is uttered against their Saints/Gurus.

real saints  are rare  and  rare are people who practice true faith irrespective of their religious backgrounds.

my purpose of writing this article is to remind myself that being a better human being is needed not the pooja/archans (worship) of notorious Mahatmas or God Almighty. our wishes, desire, and dreams should be considered sane and we let listen our heart. we shall not practice something because our parents did or our society approves it.  let hope for peace in our heart so it come into the world of ours.

vedic astrology

LTP Ep. 35 1 Of 5 “God Goddess The Astrologer” Jeffrey Armstrong – More amazing videos are a click away

Dark Valley

I am waking in the dark valley. How could I see what is on my way?

I got to put one step at a time and to be watchful of the direction. As the valley is slippery I have been walking alone.

The valley is dark even in day’s time as the clouds hide the sunshine.

Fear is surmounting with every little step.

How can a direction is to be found in darkness. There is no pathway made.

My conscience is put on a test. I know I am no God.

I have little doubt over what a person has to do to make a successful journey in this dark valley. There are passerby who says just enjoy, eat some fruits on your way and fact is that you cannot restrain thyself from ripe and delicious fruits.

Everyone seems to be lost their way in this valley.  Some have found the way to light and they are few. They have pointed the direction toward light, but people are no way listening as they never want to leave the fruits.

Fruits are survival. I eat different types of fruits and I walk ahead; I sit and ponder of the direction I am heeding toward. Then I meet passerby they talk of fruit of love. This fruit is juicy and irresistible. Every likes to eat it. It gives them certain identity and the illusion of being whole. But we need fruits everyday for survival.

Other fruit is called friendship. We People eat it to get the security. They feel secure that they will be protected from the downfall though downfall is inevitable.

I want to remind myself that my downfall is also as true as I see of others.

I want to take the shower of sun shine before the downfall. I want to lighten the dark valley. I want to enter into light, to be the light for the darkness to get dissolved. Then the downfall would be without the fear and so natural. Let me not fear of the downfall but  I shall enter into the light.

ASTO MA SADGAMAY, TAMSO MA JYOTIRGAMAY, MRITYOR MA AMRITAMGAMAY.

thoughts are things

I hold it true that thoughts are things;
They’re endowed with bodies
and breath and wings:
And that we send them forth to fill
The world with good results, or ill.
That which we call our secret thought
Speeds forth to earth’s remotest spot,
Leaving its blessings or its woes
Like tracks behind it as it goes.
We build our future, thought by thought,
For good or ill, yet know it not.
Yet so the universe was wrought.
Thought is another name for fate;
Choose then thy destiny and wait,
For love brings love and hate brings hate.
Henry Van Dyke

Happiness is the way

in my opinion Happiness is a cause not an effect. the illustration that comes from the book named City Dharma is quite correct. the same illustration comes from the book named power of now. the same illustration can be sited that you need not seek the happiness, you can be happy right now. seeking comes into future, if we see the power of now. we realise that we have contradction within ourself. there is ego/past within us that seeks its survival in past and future. we become lost in thoughts and believe our stories to be true. we make any identity of ourselves by what happened in past, negative or positive. by doing this we do not respect the love of nature around us. we do not realise the beauty of nature embeeded in plants, trees, sky, animals. and we see other human beings who are also lost in mind. so we try to figure out whose pain is more – mine or theirs? we ask for happiness outside, in our position, bank balances, looks, opinions. and we get frustrated many times by indulging in self seeking behaviors. first thing to accpet the pain as part of you. accpet what is happiness or unhappiness. accpetance and surreder to life crate miracles.